Relationships: Part 5

I have come to realize just how much patience it takes to hold down a relationship. It's almost ridiculous. It's difficult to say what can make a relationship last...mostly because people get into them at different levels. One person in the relay may work, while the other may be a Couch Potato. Not a superb mix but hey, attraction is crazy sometimes. Two people may not be able to get past the attraction to see real life issues.

Patience does come into play when the real-life issues start to move their pieces in the game. It's something like Jumanji-The Relationships Version!

Say the female is the type that likes to be catered to, and taken out to eat, see a movie, an arcade, anything fun in general. Can the guy she's dating handle that? She may not have saw he wasn't able to when she first met him because...she was just awfully attracted to this Dark-Skinned Brother with Pearl-White Teeth and clean Yellow Nikes. Little did she know, he really has no job, gets his money from his parents, and has a clean yellow Metrocard. But, hey, if she has patience, it'll work right?...Eh, maybe then.

Patience would allow her to just, like the guy for who he is. Sure, he may not be able to get her the finer things in life, at the moment. However, if he has a sense of humor, that can go a long way I mean, what Female doesn't like to crack a smile? She could hold him down for that matter.

On the flipside, and this is a good one (trust me). Say a guy meets a very attractive Female. She may not have a job, but she gets her money here and there. She's very entertaining, interesting, likes a good time. She's able to leave her house whenever she wants to spend her time with him. However, she manages her time horribly, and seems as though whenever they have time to do something, something else comes up. Jeeesh, it may be more important than the guy, but what's a Feller to do? He knows that he may have a one of a kind Girl on his hands, but what patience he must need to want to keep her. Her personality is just so eccentric and matches her looks that its hard for him to be led astry by another great pair of legs. He's got to come to terms with himself to find out what he actually needs. Is it the personality, or the time? Hmmm..

So the question comes, why can't people have their cake and eat it to? Well, it wouldn't be any fun that way would it?

Patience in relationships, and dealing with it goes a very long way. Another two people may have better ways of managing their time and issues. Couple A may both love movies. Nights inside watching the Godfather can keep the flower of a relationship Blossoming. Couple B however is a bit different. That guy might leave that girl. No one wants to be with anyone that doesn't have time for them. This leads to many days, nights and mornings of disappointments, sadness, and in extreme and tragic cases, depression. Yuck, who wants that?
Therefore, that guy may just go find those other pair of great legs. Also, most people in his situation would think that she's just using him as a conversationalist, and giving another guy who can't talk, all the time in the world.

With that said, how much patience do you have?

Relationships...A Mistake Made At The Door Of Them...

(In 50 Cent Voice) Ok Okay Okaayyyyy...In the beginning of relations/getting to know someone that you like its easy to get lost in translation. Again, with lack of a flashlight, a match, a cell phone, anything with a slight example of illumation. Shit, at that point im sure most people wished they attended Hogwarts. I'd pull out a BIC Pen and say Lumos! But NO! That's not the case here, its real life.
You can get real deep with your bare hands, fuck coppin' a shovel. For What? You've gotten this far with him/her. You feel like things are going right. You know what you want. You want a girl, or a man to call your own, a relationship. Just to feel attatched to someone. This person, feels right. He/she is talking, saying the right things, doing the right actions. You're feeling them and they're feeling you. You can't go wrong.

The Error Lies...

In the fact that you've only known this person for a week at most. You've seen him/her around a couple times, and now, finally, you guys are together. Tongue in tongue, in a totally conversational way, but it's just a little bit tooooooo soon. Fools rush in. Fools rush in. Fools rush in. The whole situation is fools gold. If you put this situation underwater, it would look just like the Silver Surfer. He likes you, but not that much. She likes you, but, not that much. Kiddo, you've kidded yourself. Your parents might as well have named you Jason, whether boy or girl. Once the wrong thing is said by the person you're talking to, all interest is lost, or they lose interest in you once you've said the wrong thing. All the smiles are gone, the balloons are deflated. That big Times Square-like "You're A Winner" sign seems to have been blown up by The Joker. He laughs, but aint SHIT funny!
I mean you felt really good about this, just to have it all removed so abrubtly. Then you droop down to that point where you're whispering under your breath, "Damn. What happened?"
It just wasn't meant to be. It was a lesson thrown to you. Don't rush in to things. Take your time. It's like a perfect basketball jumpshot. The ball needs rotation. In the beginnin, aim to get to know how someone is instead of aiming to get them. They aint goin nowhere.
It was nice talking to you, but we will talk again. It's no rush. You can be a fool when you're in love. But it's awful to be a fool when your in like. There is a trap door ahead of your path to take that step.
Learning when and how to call a good first time quits is a must. If the end is prolonged, then that first date or conversation may end worse, much worse than expected. Life is no fairytale. Most glass slippers only exist in strip clubs.
(In Denzel Washington Voice) You don't want that. I Don't want that.